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Are You Shy?

I’ve never considered myself to be shy, but truth be told, I’ve always been guarded. Guarded is a sort of fancy word for introverted. Introverted and shy, it turns out, are not the same creature. I’d never given much thought to either, until now. It’s not like I’m anti-social. But the social media aspect of being a writer, and soon to be published author, is daunting for people like me. It’s like throwing yourself into an oven and praying it’s only set at around 175 degrees. Because at 400–you will burn up. 400 is too hot, too social, too LOUD.

The social media aspect of this business forces us to be just that—social. It forces us to be everywhere. All The Time. Making contacts, creating a brand—-basically, establishing a business from the ground floor. A huge undertaking, especially when we are expected to be writing good books at the same time. When you aren’t an extrovert, it’s an even harder task. Thankfully, a lot of blog and twitter friends are extroverts and that makes it easier. They draw us introverts out once in a while.

I uploaded my fledgling Facebook page the other day (come over and LIKE me), and I swear it took all I had to push ‘publish’ and go live. I felt the same way with Twitter, an outlet that is going strong now, thankfully. My blog has been, surprisingly, the easiest branch of social media for me. Why? I’m all exposed here on the blog, how could that be easier? Writing is easy. Simple as that. Talking to 500 people on Twitter….different story. (Thank you for keeping me talking Twitter followers:)

I ran across an interesting article on NPR the other day.

Quiet, Please: Unleashing ‘The Power Of Introverts’ You can find the link here: NPR Books

Susan Cain has written a book on the subject.


The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking

Check it out.

When I publish my novel later this year, I will likely hide for a few weeks, due to open and blatant exposure (Kidding. Sort of;)

Are you more comfortable in a crowded room talking to any and everyone? Or do one on one conversations interest you more?

5 responses

  1. I plan to read that book!

    February 2, 2012 at 10:13 pm

  2. Laney,

    Holy crap, this is exactly me (and I suspect most writers).

    What no one seems to be talking about on the web (surprisingly) is how much emotional and psychological effort it takes JUST TO WRITE. I have to overcome so much internal BS in my mind, from a life time of rejection (no different than most people, tho) and put virtual pen to digital paper despite fears. And then the constant rejection of the work itself (agents mostly, but readers too).

    Now add to that whole world of angst and self-loathing the ALWAYS UP, ALWAYS POSITIVE 😀 social medial world, and it feels crushing some days just to get up and turn on the ol’ laptop.


    Like you, I’m finding that social media is just what I needed. To get out of my shell. To see that there are other writers going through just what I’m going through. I fought of entering the fray for so long. But now it’s growing on me. It’s not easy, like you say. But maybe I’m finally learning to “dance.” 🙂

    Best of luck with your writing. Let us all out here in socmed know when your book is released.


    February 7, 2012 at 11:33 am

    • Thanks for the comment Carl. I agree, social media is just part of the dance we all need to learn. The challenge is balancing everything. A couple RT’s here and there, a blog post every couple days–and the rest spent on the important stuff–the actual reason we’re creating platforms in the first place–The Books 🙂

      February 8, 2012 at 9:34 am

      • Oh, and thank you–I’m shooting for Summer release on my novel. Which means less social media to get it all finished…yay. I’ll be posting announcements and all that jazz in a few months.

        February 8, 2012 at 9:36 am

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